People turn their heads. They don't want to get involved. It's none of their business. Many (men usually) think she deserves it. There are many forms of abuse. Physical, mental, verbal, emotional. But it's all the same. It's abuse. It's also very well hidden. The abuser makes the abused think they or someone they love will be harmed or killed if the abused speak out. So it is kept quiet. Abusers must be stopped. In whatever way it takes. Don't turn your head. Don't mind your own business. The abused are very afraid to speak out. They need help. They need your help. Please help put a stop to the hatred. And remember, the abuser isn't always male. 

I lived in an abusive situation for half my life. I wanted someone to help. I needed someone to help. But everyone just turned their heads. I was told once by someone I loved greatly, that I made my bed, now I had to lay in it. It took me years to change those sheets. And I'm glad I did. And I've also turned into one of those people that won't turn their heads. I won't mind my own business when if I see something wrong. I will speak out. I'm no longer afraid. By speaking out, you are showing the abuser you are stronger than they are. Don't be intimidated into thinking they are stronger. An abuser is a very weak person and the only way they feel strong is to abuse. Don't fall prey to the game.

If you are being abused, or think you are these are some of the signs. 
*Taken from Violence Against Women

• monitors what you’re doing all the time

• criticizes you for little things

• constantly accuses you of being unfaithful

• prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family, or going to work or school

• gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs

• controls how you spend your money

• controls your use of needed medicines

• humiliates you in front of others

• destroys your property or things that you care about

• threatens to hurt you, the children, or pets, or does cause hurt (by hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting)

• uses or threatens to use a weapon against you

• forces you to have sex against your will

• blames you for his or her violent outbursts

Below are many links to organizations, personal websites, etc. Please visit them. Learn the signs of abuse and speak out if you see it. Help put an end to this problem. The cure begins with you. Please help stop the tears.

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